Do You Question Your Competence?
Uncover Your Positivity and Confidence Score
It’s your choice. Do you feel optimistic about your future, or do you dwell on the negative. Is it difficult to be positive when you face a challenge or conflict? Or, do you stand up to difficult situations with inner toughness and determination, keeping your composure throughout.
Along with attitude is your ability to express yourself with confidence and clarity. None of us wants to feel anxious all day or look ridiculous in a work or personal situation. If you’re always worried about making mistakes, or looking foolish, you may hold yourself back.
You can build self-confidence, become more positive, and take control of your destiny. Take this quick assessment to uncover what might be holding you back in both your personal or work life. If you are not currently working, think about your last work or group experience where you may have questioned your competence.
Part 1: Do You Question Your Competence? | Yes | No |
1. I worry that I’m not effective enough when dealing with my manager or co-workers. | ||
2. After I’ve had a conversation with someone, I sometimes worry that I might have said something that created ill feelings. | ||
3. I love a good debate. | ||
4. I rarely worry about others thinking of me as misinformed or ignorant about things. | ||
5. When I’m in social situations, I am not self-conscious, and I don’t worry about following rules of etiquette. | ||
6. I sometimes worry that others think I don’t know what I’m doing. | ||
7. I fear that others see me as disruptive and undisciplined. | ||
8. I never worry if my co-workers think that I’m not putting enough time and energy into my job. | ||
9. I avoid criticizing someone else’s judgment because I’m afraid that I will be wrong. | ||
10. I worry that others will laugh at my ideas. | ||
11. When someone disagrees with me, I am afraid to share my opinion to avoid conflict. | ||
12. Whenever someone asks me about the glass half-full or half-empty, I always see the half-empty glass. | ||
13. When I’m getting emotional in a tense situation, I can pull myself back for a moment to collect myself. | ||
14. When others unfairly accuse me of something, I find it difficult to defend myself. | ||
15. I often think that I made a bad impression and find myself working to turn that around. | ||
16. When I am feeling anxious about an upcoming new situation, I take time to prepare myself in advance to reduce my fear. | ||
17. I quickly feel depressed after a sad experience; it’s difficult to shake it off. | ||
18. When I feel happy, I want to share it with others. | ||
19. I respect the admirable qualities of others, but it makes me feel inferior. | ||
20. I believe that most people are honest and have good intentions. |
Positivity and Confidence Score {maximum score is 20] __________
- 17-20 – You can climb any mountain. Go for it!
- 12-16 – You have some confidence and can be positive when you face challenges. There are some areas where you question your competence. Take time in a quiet moment to consider the questions in Part 2 below. An expert personal coach could help you reach that mountaintop
- 11 or below – You question your competence, could use more confidence in yourself, and tend to be more negative than positive. Take time in a quiet moment to consider the questions in Part 2 below. You could benefit from expert coaching to turn on your positivity switch, gain more confidence, and find greater happiness.
Part 2: What Did You Discover About Yourself?
Self-awareness is the first step toward understanding yourself. Then, choosing to change certain current patterns of behavior into more productive ones becomes easier.
Note: This is a little complicated, but it’s the only way to guide them to assess where they are negative and lack confidence so they can fix it.
- Which positive statements, 3, 4, 5, 8, 13, 16, 18, 10, did check “No”? --------------------------------------------
- Which negative statements, 1, 2, 6, 7, 9, 10, 11, 12, 14, 15, 17 did you check “Yes.” -------------------------------
Now consider these questions about the responses you identified above.
Why do you think you lack confidence or approach the situation negatively?
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Which situation and feeling above happens to you most often?
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Which situation and feeling above worries you the most?
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Which situation and feeling above would you like to change most?
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What help and cooperation from others might you need to make these changes and build your self-confidence?
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